The Root Of Unhappiness. How To Take Responsibility For Your Life

You are responsible for yourself.

Whatever you do, say, or think is your own responsibility.

Your whole life choices are your responsibility and only yours.

Stop blaming other people for the choices you made and make. Realize that your whole life is what you make of it.

How people treat you is also your own responsibility, because you allow those treatments.

When you allow certain people, experiences, habits, treatment in your life it’s a green light for the universe to send you more similar ones.

You attract what you are. And what you are is shown by what you accept.

You are lying to your own self first. You blame other people for your current situation.

You are comfortable. You blame others for your current situation and you give your power away. When your power is with “them” you don’t have to work on changing the situation you can just sit there and lie to yourself that “you can’t do anything about it”. Keep it as an excuse to sit in the same bullshit you have been sitting for a while. But if you hold your own power then you are responsible for the change, and unless you want to be unhappy you have to take steps forward towards improving the situation.

That’s the reason we give our power away, to use it as an excuse not to change and grow. Sitting in the bullshit is easy, it requires no effort whatsoever. Taking yourself out of that bullshit on the other hand takes effort, hard work, willingness, willpower, and strength. People are just lazy to be happy.

But remember when you take responsibility for your own making when you set boundaries when you don’t let people disrespect you when you know what you allow in your life and what don’t, your surroundings will call you difficult. They will try everything to keep you from growing. They will shame you, blame you and try to drag you down so they can be on your level again. They will even shame you for being happy.

Be okay with that. When you outgrow them, you outgrow them. Leave them wherever they are. You aren’t responsible for their growth and life. You are responsible for yourself. You can’t change anyone and you can’t defend yourself for becoming better.

Be in peace with being yourself. Always leave room for growth. Feel who you are and allow who you are to change, regress, and progress. We have to be flexible while being disciplined. Without discipline, there is no flexibility and vice versa. Without day there is no night. Without night there would be no day. That is how balance looks like.

Do not label yourself and do not define yourself. To label, yourself is to define it. To define is to limit. Change as much as you want, grow, and transform as often as you desire.

Remember you always hold the power within. You always have the power to change every single moment, unless it’s an environmental limit. And if the universe is setting a limit for you it also granted you with power to change the outlook on that limit. You either change the situation or you change your perception about the situation. You are the alchemist you can transform limits into blessings. Nelson Mandela said, “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.”

Don’t be a volunteer prisoner. Rumi said;

“One of the marvels of the world is

the sight of a soul sitting in prison with the key in its hand!”

You hold the key to your life.

Change your mindset, learn, upgrade your personality, transform your life, take a few steps backward, a few forward, and repeat it until you die.

Originally published at on December 31, 2020.




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